What My Client Told Me After Her $100k Divorce

I want to let you into something that happened behind closed doors this week.

A client sat across from me, voice steady, eyes locked on mine. She told me her divorce cost her well over $100K. Then she leaned in and said, without a single trickle of hesitation:

“Best $100K I have ever or will ever spend.”

Now, I need to share with you that the decision to leave her partner was wildly, excruciatingly not an easy one.  And I need to tell you that this the cost of her divorce was wildly, excruciatingly outside of her financial comfort zone.

But the secret buried inside her words: 

It isn't about money or even the marriage.

She was talking about the price of settling. The cost of nights spent pretending she was fine. The weight of sex that felt like duty. The slow bleed of lowering her standards until she couldn’t recognize herself anymore.

That $100K bought her freedom from a relationship that took more than it gave.

It bought her mornings where she could breathe again.

It bought her Sundays without dread.

Vacations without arguments.

Holidays that didn’t feel like walking on eggshells.

It bought her a life on her own terms, where she was never too much, too dramatic or too emotional. 

Where desire wasn’t snuffed out.

Where joy wasn’t rationed.

Where she finally understood that the most expensive thing

she ever could have paid was the price of staying.

$100k is a small price to pay for autonomy, self-trust and authentic happiness.

And here’s what most women don’t realize- you don’t need to throw your life into flames or pay six figures to get there. 

Sometimes it starts with a whisper of rebellion: saying no when you’ve always said yes, raising the bar when you’ve been taught to bend, wanting more when everyone else tells you to be grateful for less.

And it is with this in mind that I want to help more women let their whispers become roars.