The Confident You

I know what it is like to feel completely unstoppable in one room and completely unreachable in another.  To feel bold, badass and beautiful in heels and a powersuit and the want to rip off my skin when the lights go off.

I know what it is like to be the woman everyone calls when something needs to get done, and also the woman who goes quiet when someone tries to get close.

I know this not only because I have sat with hundreds of women and helped them find their way back to safety, sensuality, and genuine excitement in their intimacy, but because I have lived every single part of it myself.

I also know now that this pattern doesn't manifest itself in a vacuum. There is a reason that intimacy is so hard for you and it absolutely is not because there is anything wrong, nor anything broken.

Instead, it is usually the result of a woman having to learn how to perform rather than how to safely surrender.

As time evolves, she becomes a master at performance; and performance never asks a vulnerable thing from you.

But intimacy? It is basically the most vulnerable thing a human can do.

And if you have spent years running on grit and hustle and sheer force of will, it makes complete sense that losing control, letting someone else take care of you, letting yourself actually be seen, would feel like the most terrifying thing in the world.

Living without full exposure keeps you safe. It fills a hole.  

But is also does some very serious damage. Because when you stay distant from being truly seen, you cap your own pleasure. Not only in the bedroom, but in all place that intimacy and trust is required.

That is exactly why I create spaces that give women the safety, the support, and the guidance to get back in touch with themselves. 

Because when a woman strengthens her relationship with herself, every other relationship transforms with it, including her relationship to partners, sex, intimacy, and control.